[Serious] What makes someone a great parent?

  1. Yup. My parents didn't have money or anything fancy but they were always there and supportive. My sister did band and my other sister did volleyball. Didn't have a lot of money but they did what they could and supported them. But on the other hand they never pushed anything on us which is good but also lead me to essentially do nothing and I regret it greatly.

  2. I learned this a long time ago. Just a few days ago i blew up on my son. He hadn't really done anything wrong, he was just annoying me because i had had an incredibly stressful day. After i yelled at him, i walked away for 1 minute (had to go pay for something), came back and opened his car door and talked to him. I apologized and made it clear that he didnt deserve me speaking to him like that, and that he didnt do anythi g wrong, and that its absolutely ok for him to ask me questions. I also made it clear that im going to try very very hard not to do that to him again. We all lose our tempers sometimes. He really appreciated it, we hugged and had a great day. I still feel bad that it happened at all, but i can't take it back. I can only move forward positively.

  3. This was my mother her whole life till she died in June. Luckily I've been blessed with a wonderful stepmother who is the strongest and best women I've ever known.

  4. Someome who doesnt get angry or frustrated when their child does something wrong, or atleast doesnt show it and instead explains what was wrong in a friendly and nice way.

  5. My mom let me go out late - in return she always knew where I was and who I was with. She knew my friends as well. I had a lot of freedom while I also knew I could talk to her. It was all a give and take and not just one sided. She went through one sibling's belongings only once for an absolute valid reason, it was some sort of emergency. Other than that she always respects our privacy.

  6. If you have a bad day and yell at your kid, take the time to have a chat with your child later on and explain why it happened. Yelling at your kid isn't what causes emotional damage, it's leaving them not understanding that does it.

  7. Giving equal attention and money. Ex. When I was a kid my sisters did competition cheer, they would have practice 5/7 night a week and loved it. I played tennis and got maybe a 20$ summer camp, but my sisters would fly to Texas and stay for days, and sometimes to Florida and go do Disney (I would stay home). The most tennis I would ever get to play is when school started. I got used to it, but I really wish I could have played more a a kid.

  8. I don’t know why this is downvoted. Mlney os EXTREMELY important. Semi professional and expensive sports teach a hell of a lot more than the free one @ the YMCA run by volunteers. It’s the attention. The skills. The expertise.

  9. Being there for your kids, no matter what. Being aproachable about any topic without punishing them, while, still setting firm boundaries. It's a very hard balance to find.

  10. Definitely. Encouraging your kids interests is one of the best things you can do as a parent, granted the interest isn't dangerous.

  11. Someone who makes sure their kids know they are loved, who give their kids the freedom to explore and learn, who supports not pressurises their kids and who teaches them manners, respect, kindness, the value of hard work and money, and consideration of others etc. Basically someone who helps their kids learn how to be a decent functioning adult.

  12. Unconditional love. Loving them even if they make decisions you don't agree with. Making sure the kids know that their parent will show up every time no matter what.

  13. Break toxic and unhealthy traits that have been passed down the generations. Experiences can still teach you how not to parent.

  14. when they can have a normal talk with there kids about things that they did were wrong but giving them a not so bad punishment for the bad reason instead of taking everything electronic that they have and then grounding them for months

  15. Being the parent (personality, parenting style, etc.) THEY need - not what the parent’s default is. Too often parents do what they can do & what’s within their comfort zone @ the expense of the child. A supervise example would be introversion. If the parent is an introvert & the child is the extrovert the parent often. Drops the lid off @ events, rarely staying. If they do stay there’s very little engagement because of their introversion. The kid suffers immensely from that because they NEED the parent to help them form their community. This logic applies with a ton of stuff. It’s about doing more than yoir best, it’s about doing what needs to be done even if it’s not your preference.

  16. Someone who cares for their kid and let’s them be free and make their choices while also letting their kid know their limitations and what they shouldn’t do

  17. Everything they do for their children makes them great. The only sincere people are the parents that makes them great also.

  18. Reporting themselves anything you’ve told them about others hurting you. Told I was almost killed and not a care lol probably disbelief

  19. Understanding that you are not supposed to be your kid's friend. At many points you have to engage into conflict in order to teach a lesson, even if your kid ends up disliking you for the moment. You are responsible for making your kid a competent human, act like it.

  20. Knowing your child can teach you things. Knowing you are not ever entitled to your child’s belongings or love. Take your child seriously abt their mental health.

  21. compassion, patience and acceptance. don't bring a child into the world if you don't think you can love them unconditionally. also don't have a kid if you have untreated mental illness.. coming from someone with a druggie bipolar mom. theres a lot i could add but i don't rly have words for it

  22. Acceptance. I’ve learned to keep so much from my parents because they’re not accepting. While meanwhile I see how my roommate’s mom acts and she genuinely acts like she wants the best for her daughter. And then there’s mine who says she wants the best for me but she doesn’t act like it

  23. Doing everything you can to keep the children you’ve got. My sister has picked men and living it up drinking while her kids are in care. They’ve been out of her care for 19 months and she’s only just starting to do what she needs to to get them back. She first picked a sex offender and alcohol (because she is without fail an alcoholic) over her kids and now that he’s gone to jail for beating her up she’s just started doing what she needs to. The kids were with my Aunty and now their with me. She used to let them have lollies for breakfast lunch and tea and now they have teeth problems and worse yet she still gives them junk when they have their supervised visits twice a week. I think what a great parent is, is someone who actually cares about the health and safety of their children. Someone who is strict but for a reason and still be loving and kind and just be there to help them grow and give them all the experiences that they can 🙂

  24. Actually talking to their kids whenever they make a small mistake, giving kids the freedom to visit friends who aren’t far, giving their children a tutor, teaching their children proper discipline etc.

  25. Encourage your kids' dreams. Don't tell them they can't do it because you never did it. Your failure is not your kids' failures. If your kids' dreams is something you wanted to do and you never made it, the greatest gift you can give your kids is to be 100% supportive of them and believing they will make it. And then, if and when they do, you will be part of the reason for their success. And you will have accomplished something far greater, the success of your children.

  26. Being there and accepting of you child no matter sexuality, religion, or path they take in life and always appreciate them for who they are and teach them all aspects and lessons and to teach them to be a good person and a productive member of society.

  27. parents who listen to your problems, and don’t start a argument over you trying to communicate. ; As a member of GenZ it was hard growing up with parents from the 1970’s-1980’s because they used older parenting skills which are quite frankly ‘toughen up’ doesn’t work when you’re having panic attacks🫤

  28. Letting their kids be and express themselves so many parents including my own think of kids as tiny robots that should only do as they say and fit in their mold. Alot of parents are overly controlling even past 18 is

  29. Giving a damn, just care about your kid not crazy just care and they will care to it’s simply, treat others how you wanna be treated

  30. Letting your child decide what they want and don’t want to do without nudging and manipulating them into hopefully doing it

  31. Please for the love of fucking god pay attention to the emotional needs of your children, not just the basic necessities. If they’re facing mental health issues LISTEN to them, if you don’t they’ll never reach out to you.

  32. Although I am not one(a parent), I am grateful that I have been surrounded by them (great parents). There are a couple things I have noticed.

  33. the values you instill in them. your job as a parent is to raise a kid to be a good person with the right values to succeed and live a happy life. not to be their friend or make excuses for poor decisions.

  34. That they always carve out time for you or to be with you. My dad when I was younger was getting a masters degree and working as a server in the evening/nights and must have been constantly exhausted. But he never let me know, he always made sure to play with me every day I love me.

  35. Knowing you can tell them everything without them getting mad . It’s always the best when you have a parent to talk to about everything, knowing they will have your back and won’t judge you or be upset . Otherwise you will be scared of them which will cause trust issues in others as well

  36. Be active in your kid's life. Get down on the floor and play with them, get them involved in things you are doing (age appropriate and safe of course) to teach them things (example, let them help you cook, let them help you do chores, let them water the plants and feed the pets, make grocery shopping into a scavenger hunt). Be very active in their schooling, ask how they did each day, know what they are learning, help them when they need it. Absolutely monitor what they are doing online and watching on TV. Dont give them unlimited access to the internet. Make sure they are watching appropriate stuff as parental controls dont cut it and bad stuff slips through all the time. Make sure they are safe online and can only access age appropriate stuff. Ask them how they are feeling and listen to their opinions and grievances before you respond.

  37. respecting your child's opinions, allowing them to be themselves, making time for them, helping them if you see they're struggling, giving them PRIVACY

  38. Some one who remembers what growing up was like. Remembering how they were raised and able to separate the good from the bad. Being available to talk to and ask questions. And still be a parent and not a friend.

  39. A great parent. For me i see my self spoilt compared to some other kids yeah I don’t have a pc but I got so much other technology and I go on holiday loads. It’s unfortunate they don’t have time to spend with us much but when they do they try their best to please us and make us happy

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