How do you all deal with your menopause/Karen rage?? I can not handle the BS!!! RANT warning

  1. I’m autistic too and I worry about someone recording me in a ‘Karen moment’. There’s simply too much incompetence to keep up with some days.

  2. I love listening to 70s music, too, for the same reason. It was a time when someone else handled the daily BS, and I could just focus on being a kid.

  3. Thank you, for recognizing it and validating my experiences. I know that too many folks in some of these customer service jobs are prob underpaid and overworked comparatively. But it’s rough!

  4. Video gaming has really helped me! I never thought I would say that! Only started gaming this year when I asked my spouse to help me create a character on his Skyrim game, now I have my own PS account and I still play Skyrim, but I also play others (Stray, Spirit of the North are two that are peaceful and calming) and it has really helped me get out of my head and my rage when incompetence and idiocracy are all I find in the real world.

  5. Video games for me too, been doing it for years. I can virtually slaughter things and get out my aggression without hurting anyone!

  6. Sometimes, I just cry... 😢 If the rage gets too strong, and have nowhere to really put it, it comes out in tears... sobbing, wobbling 😭 tears...injected with some colorful words. Eventually I exhaust myself and sleep.

  7. I have not found anything that is satisfactory just yet but I have a lot of fantasy of just rage quitting, yelling fuck it to whatever situation that has me pissed off at work or home, and walking out. I can’t do that so I think it through in my head.

  8. Right, it’s kinda like being premenstrual. Women get a bad rap for being bitchy with pms, but a lot of the time it’s just the push to say whatever the nice version has been keeping under wraps.

  9. I highly recommend the book, The Utopia of Rules: On Technology, Stupidity, and the Secret Joys of Bureaucracy, by David Graeber.

  10. I’m so grateful for this forum where we can say the truth about what is happening. It makes me feel less completely batshit crazy. I wanted to slaughter everyone in reach this afternoon. The mood swings are insane.

  11. I’ve become increasingly more isolated. It’s starting to scare me. I hate all the people, and often even myself.

  12. I have a very strong desire to isolate, but at the same time feeling waves of utter loneliness. It's not a great place to be.

  13. I play games while listening to really heavy music. Someone else screaming has a calming effect on me lol. I can’t scream worth shit lol

  14. It’s so hard, but when I can push through stay calm and act “as-if” you really do get more flies with honey than you do with vinegar. It’s usually me being totally fake, but after having made my life so much harder at times by alienating people from wanting to help me, it turns out I’m more lazy than I am cranky. I’ve also watched older people around me get smaller and smaller lives as they get more and more focused on the negatives. As I am fond of saying, I often feel like that but I don’t want to be like that, so I just try to fake it ‘til I make it, as cliche as that saying is.

  15. I hear you my peri rage was horrendous - completely relate to everything you said in your post, it feels horrible and out of control. HRT, has transformed how I feel. Incompetent people are still everywhere, they still annoy me, but the rage level has significantly decreased, that I can cope without feeling like my head might explode. I hope you are able to find some help that works for you soon (HRT or otherwise), it’s not you, it’s your hormones. Sadly, I have no recommendations for making people less stupid and annoying.

  16. Yep, to fight the incompetent and f-ed up things that are often thrown in my face day to day, I go sea swimming. In the UK. The shock of the cold, and controlling my reaction to it is a great remedy. On the way there, a bit of primal screaming in my car also helps.

  17. Lucky you if you have a doctor that will prescribe Xanax. Doctors in Australia are super paranoid about any medication of possible dependence. Last year when I was waking up 5 to 7 times every single time and was exhausted my doctor gave me 10 of the lowest dose sleeping tablets possible.

  18. What makes me feel rage is when fellow middle age women perpetuate the ageist and sexist "Karen" slur. Please stop doing this. It is highly derogatory towards middle age women with a sole purpose of rendering us silent and irrelevant.. As someone named Karen, I've stopped giving my real name when ordering a Latte at Starbucks, have had to listen to people say "yeah but are you really a Karen?", and get a sinking feeling in my stomach when I hear my name said out loud in public. It's a bullying slur, and an uncreative one at that. We live in such an ageist society, let's please not contribute to it further and remember there are a lot of women with this name who have felt pain and discomfort from it's pejorative form.

  19. Well, my actual name is Karen. So…rage, being upset over that lovely term has been just wonderful. Delightful in fact. I go by K now because if it. But if I complain…I’m a Karen. So. There’s that.

  20. My friend raged so hard on a phone call that when asked, “is there anything else I can do for you?” She responded with, “yes, I want you to raise your hand in the air so when I get there I know who to take out!” This was about 10 years ago, I honestly don’t know how authorities didn’t show up at her door. I told her she should probably get some help at this point.

  21. I recommend spending time watching the pet collective tv. Otherwise, I could have written your OP 😀

  22. Oh wow. This crap isn’t menopause it’s a “this world is f-ed ” crap. Anyone unless Jesus or a someone dragged out of there r mind would be upset with this. Don’t you find in general businesses and services and everything is unorganized, and to not give to craps to rub together about how Thor actions effect other people?

  23. Yah, it’s unfortunate that a few bad apples, combined with rampant misogyny had now gotten us, or some of us worried about speaking our minds. I mean I’m happy to give no fucks and to be assertive and stand up for myself. I want to do it in a reasonable and sane way. But there seriously is too much bs out there. I did not do anything wrong or cause any of the above situations, and didn’t even get into the bs with the mechanics. So balancing the anger and assertiveness in a way to get results is a challenge with the new added callout of being a Karen.

  24. When I felt this way towards companies, then I would email them with a complaint and boy did I let rip 😆😆 I think my complaint was barely legal, as in it was not nasty and bitchy enough for them to call it abuse, but it helped me and now when I read them, I feel so embarrassed because the rage part seems to have left me!😆

  25. I take Wellbutrin. I'm much less irritable and have way more patience. Also I lost 40 pounds due to the appetite suppressant qualities of it.

  26. I began HRT and weight lifting machines at gym. A lot less rage and I feel stronger. Plus clothes are fitting better.

  27. Wow!! Too bad this wasn’t a convo we were having in person- as I’ve always wanted to shake the hand of someone so perfect!!

  28. You have to learn to recognize when your efforts aren’t producing results and change your approach. Spending hours messaging and calling customer service and tech support is how you reach this level of frustration. The entirety of your wall of text of problems could have been resolved by taking a half day off work and dealing with this shit in person.

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