Why are younger generations so obsessed with broadcasting that they are not straight?

  1. I think, like you touched on, its just what people grasp to these days. Teens and younger people in general are at a point where theyre working out their identity and how they connect with others in the world, and so have a big focus on defining their place among others. This comes out in all manner of trends, such as music taste.

  2. Young people need to figure out their identity and LGBT subjects and politics are the big cultural points at the moment, in the same way that music was a few years before.

  3. That’s generally how I explain it to my kid, who has asked me why everyone now is bi or gay. She seemed exasperated by how often it’s discussed.

  4. Cultural overcorrection for historical Western suppression of anyone who’s not straight and cisgender. It’ll even out with time.

  5. Everyone looks for a communal identity. There is protection, support, and pride that comes with it. I would say it's the exact same reason why there is southern pride. I mean, look at Texas and their Texas things. The loudest and most prideful group out there. Just something to give someone reason for being excited to be alive.

  6. Gays get so much hate for flying rainbow flags, but no one cares that Texans plaster their cars in Cowboys stickers…

  7. I mean, I'm around that age, and for me, it represents the difference in availability of internet/cell phones/tv... I live in a more rural area, so all that stuff came to us late. A person 5 years younger than me is significantly more likely to have grown up with internet in the home, multiple tv channels, and cell phones. Those things were all introduced to me in my teen years, as opposed to childhood.

  8. Being 26 and going on 27 this month, there is a difference in this gap. My older brother is 5 years ahead of me, and I am 5 years ahead of my younger sister. There is quite a difference in all of our high school experiences at the same schools.

  9. I'll be honest, they do feel like a completely different generation. I'm 26, technically I lump in with millennials, some consider me gen Z. I don't relate to older millennials, but 21 year olds and younger in gen Z feel so much more foreign when I interact with them. That's how much things have changed since I was that age. I grew up with Facebook in highschool, but I never jumped in with twitter, Instagram, not even tik tok now that it's so popular. I guess I'm a lame outlier and that alters my perspective. I sympathize a lot with gen z and what they are going through, but their whole culture feels so strange to me even though it's a small age gap. In conversation I also typically refer to them as the younger generation due to that difference in what we grew up with.

  10. That’s definitely a younger generation. I’m 26, and don’t even remotely relate to the 21 and under crowd. It’s truly two different worlds.

  11. To be fair there is a huge difference between 26 year olds and 21 year olds. I'm at the tail end of millennials and can still relate to people 10 years older than me. We have a lot of shared life experiences even though they are older than me. It's a lot harder to relate to people 10 years younger than me. They don't share the same life experiences. We didn't even watch the same cartoons as a kid like I did with people 10 years older than me.

  12. The fact OP is talking like an old geezer when referring to someone only a few years younger than their young ass self genuinely confused me for a good moment and honestly gave me a good chuckle.

  13. The more we learn about technology, the faster we can create new tech. Being born in 1995 and then in 2001 is quite a difference.

  14. I completely get why it sounds absurd, and for a minute it did to me too, but then I thought about it a little more. Hear me out.

  15. There’s are entire areas of psychology, sociology, etc. that deal with similar topics. Social psychology being one of them.

  16. I think another big part of it is that this is one of the first times in history where its relatively safe to be openly queer, so people get to celebrate it more openly, instead of having to hide it.

  17. You are way more likely to successfully hook up with someone of the same gender if you broadcast that you are open to that idea, since gay people hitting on straights is still not widely accepted.

  18. In many states its still legal for a straight man to murder a gay man if he gets hit on by them. They can legally claim temporary insanity

  19. Probably the same reason my teen male straight friends were so obsessed with broadcasting who they wanted to fuck, because it's normal at that age. The only difference between now and back in the day is people were harassed for being gay then, and they're just less harassed now.

  20. We couldn’t do it back then. I was outed and was beaten, my car was vandalized, my parents kicked me out at 14 and I was homeless. Never returned home. Thank you for letting us know it’s gotten better for the next generation.

  21. Im straight so I don't have the personal experience, but I do have a plethora of LGBTQ friends who I think would have loved to be able to embrace their feelings publicly and not feel the need to hide it.

  22. This is the best answer in this comment section. I also grew up queer and only came out in my late teens because I would have been beaten up every day. Young folks can live their true lives with less fear now because there's less danger.

  23. I have similar thoughts. Op sees this as a problem but I see it as an absolute win. People being unafraid to discuss and question their sexuality? I love this.

  24. It seems like every year there is more acceptance of people. Thing is, kids have always been accepting of others. It is parents that teach them hate. I really hope that cycle is breaking.

  25. This is the answer. LGBTQIA+ pride isn't about boasting, it's about safety in numbers and normalizing reality. This dismissive idea that these kids are just peacocks is such an asshole take.

  26. My friend killed himself at 17 years old in 2010 cuz all the harassment and hate he got for being gay, his parents kicked him out when he got a bf, then his bf broke up with him and he couldn't bear the heart break and pain anymore. He didn't tell anyone that he was suffering. He always had a smile on his face, always a kind word and willing to help anyone. So I'm happy teenagers now aren't facing the same intense hate, violence and discrimination for living as their authentic selves, and they can speak openly and people aren't constantly saying "fag" and "that's gay" anymore. I hope the progress we made since then continues at the pace it's been going and by 2030, saying your gay is as normal as saying my favourite colour is blue and all the right-wing people get tired of their idiotic rhetoric and give up cuz no one is listening to them anymore.

  27. OP, in my opinion, obviously has his own negative connotations about LGBT people. Not to say that can’t change, but he’s definitely uncomfortable with the concept of people being openly gay. And he doesn’t quite understand how his own prejudice could make people uncomfortable with their sexuality.

  28. generations before them were forced to pretend they were straight in fear of being ridiculed, prosecuted, attacked, or killed. so now that things such as that are less common, people are taking advantage of that which older generations couldn’t do

  29. short answer: they literally aren’t. those events you described only stick out because of the dozens of examples of straight romance you see every day.

  30. great reply, I was thinking how to put it all into words but you did it best. good job! I myself am queer too and it's crazy how everybody around me just assumes I'm a cishet man until I say otherwise, so I think it's also a reason, it makes it more clear. Without it, people just assume you're straight

  31. I actually think OP's on the cut-off year for being considered a millenial, not that it matters much. They're still so similar in age, that him waving his cane about "these damn kids" is hilarious.

  32. Mostly you are experiencing the vocal minority. Most people don’t make a big deal out of their sexuality, but the ones that do do it loudly.

  33. Exactly. The absolute majority don't, it's usually just young teens who have just discovered themselves that are making this noise.

  34. Exactly, and our our minds have a tendency to exaggerate reality - especially relating to stereotypes and other social groups

  35. I feel that this occurs with any group that for most of its existence has been ostracized or considered "not-in", for whatever reason.

  36. I mean it's always been like this. You ever go to a pride? "Loud and proud" is the motto. And why shouldn't it be? Even into the 70s simply being homosexual was a punishable offense in many western countries. Then aids wiped out nearly 1/10th of gay US men and the public debated whether this was God's retribution or not. "Don't ask, don't tell" prohibited homosexual and bi people from disclosing their identity in the US military, and it was considered a huge win for LGBT people at the time(1994). It was in effect until 2011. In Will and Grace, a show featuring two homosexual leads, there is like, one gay kiss in the whole runtime. And it's not even romantic, it's just to make a point.

  37. The first part of this post confuses me a bit. Are you saying that just "checking girls out" isn't enough to be bisexual, and that to be bisexual a girl would have to have "done something" with another girl? I can't tell if you were just annoyed that this person was explaining bisexuality to your bisexual girlfriend, or if you genuinely think she was wrong. If it's the latter, that's frankly a very odd and funny way of thinking. Attraction is necessary, not action. Incels go their whole lives without doing anything with a girl, they're still straight. Again, not sure if I just misinterpreted what you said.

  38. I was also confused by this...I had sex with a girl before I ever had sex with a guy, it didn't diminish my bisexuality🤷‍♀️

  39. 26 and 21 really aren't that far apart in age. Some people find empowerment through being out and loud. Others, like myself and your partner, tend to be a bit more demure. It just depends on the person. I had the good fortune to grow up with friends who shared my sexuality so it wasn't a big deal, but others grow up in more repressive environments (even in the same country) and they might prefer a different approach. It's not really a big deal either way.

  40. I understand the music genre comparison but it's not quite the same. It's more of a reaction to not feeling allowed to broadcast it.

  41. This is the result of years of homophobia and don't ask don't tell. You barr someone from doing something for so long, their gonna go crazy about it once they can.

  42. I agree with what your saying accept.... people can be bi without dating the same sex. I'm not talking about this specific situation as I'm not in your place but as a general topic.

  43. I shouldn't have had to scroll so far before this point was made. (Many) straight folks have no problem understanding that just because someone hasn't had a relationship yet doesn't invalidate knowing they're straight, but somehow a bi person can't know they're bi until they've been with both sexes? I don't think so.

  44. I’m a little surprised I had to scroll so far for this point. I am bisexual. I have been dating the same man since I was 16 (it’ll be 18 years this summer) and he was my first kiss, first partner.

  45. I'd say it's just that our generation is more accepting towards gay people and other sexualities. There is just a sens of freedom and self acceptance that comes when you can openly say that you are gay or be. In past generations having such a discourse would have you to face a lot of troubles. Now people are just cool with that.

  46. Quick note, that girl was somewhat right about bisexuality. You don’t have to have dated/hooked up with someone of the same gender to be bisexual. It’s just about who you’re attracted to

  47. Yeah, we don’t make it a requirement for someone sleep with a member of the opposite sex in order to confirm they’re straight; why do bisexuals always have to back our sexuality with our sexual partner track record?

  48. Exactly. You don't ever ask a straight person to "prove" their sexuality. My friend only realised she was bi about a year ago, in her mid twenties and she's in a long term relationship. Attraction is attraction regardless.

  49. I think the same amount of people have been gay/ LGBTQ+ forever, but since it’s much more welcomed in today’s world they are able to express themselves and thus appear to be more “prevalent”.

  50. Well, recalling that when I was growing up most parties were the opposite, and often non-straight people weren’t just kicked out…I am having trouble feeling bad for anyone who feels left out in this situation because they’re straight.

  51. Yeah, my gay cousin wasn't just kicked out of parties, but her own home. Luckily my family aren't bigots and we let her live with us.

  52. Because y’all are too comfortable with the oppressive status quo, societal change doesn’t happen when you keep quiet about the things people abuse you over.

  53. It’s kind of funny how heterosexuality is broadcast much more than any other orientation but it’s so normalized that nobody thinks of it as being broadcast. Have a commercial on TV with a man a woman and the kids living in the same house and nobody bats an eye. Show two guys with their kids and they certain part of the population screams that they’re pushing a gay agenda into peoples faces without being able to wrap their heads around the idea that the first family was broadcasting the same thing

  54. For real. I can only imagine the amount of insults, death threats and accusations of bigotry I would receive if I were to make a thread asking why the straights are so obsessed with broadcasting their sexuality every five seconds.

  55. Right? Highly doubt OP thinks twice about “broadcasting” their heterosexuality. For OP that’s just the norm of talking about their partner, life, preferences, etc in conversation. It’s not even noticeable to them because it’s the default. But queer people being open about similar topics is “broadcasting”. Lol.

  56. This ain't new, we just don't have to fear for out safety as often if we're outed. Why are older generations so obsessed with broadcasting they are straight?

  57. because homophobia is still a big deal and talking openly and proudly about queerness combats stigma and creates a more open environment for young people and other who are questioning or fighting for acceptance

  58. Thank you! 90% of the comment section is a bunch of straight people saying gay people just do it for attention and it's annoying.

  59. I think it is just part of the normal process of figuring out your identity that everyone goes through as a teenager. Being queer in any form is a lot more accepted now so I think for that generation it’s acceptable to actively and openly talk about it. When I was a teenager, most people stayed closeted because you’d be bullied at my HS for being queer and not just by the kids. Teenagers can be annoying by default.

  60. Because LGBT+ rights are still not a thing in many parts of the world, and they are still under threat in many places where they are a thing. There is still a lot of intolerance out there. The more people there are who are openly queer, the more normalized we will become.

  61. I hate it when I watch tv and I’m forced to see all those straight people with their weddings and engagements and baby story lines. Straights seem to like the older couple has been together for thirty years storyline. I am so tired of it. Can’t they just keep it to themselves. No one cares what your sexual orientation is.

  62. As for the party--- as queer people have become more visible/accepted we have lost a lot of our safe places to meet other queers. Straight girls at gay clubs is a real problem, on one hand I feel bad because they need more safe places but them claiming ours and bringing all their friends hurts us....

  63. previous generations didn’t have social media to broadcast their obnoxious teenaged vies for attention. I’m not saying different sexuality’s aren’t valid, but I definitely think some people, especially younger and teenagers are VERY vocal about it to the point of being annoying… but when you’re a teenager, you’re annoyingly vocal about just about everything. you can have sex with whoever you want, I think that’s great for you, but you don’t have to broadcast it 24/7 to the entire world all the time online lol.

  64. I think it stems from young people experiencing two “rites of passage” at the same time: 1, finding an identity and being excited to express themselves, and 2, being obnoxiously horny and using every excuse to talk and think about it, because well, they’re teenagers.

  65. There are a couple of things at play. One is that the spectrum of gender and sexual identity has only recently been accepted in American society at large. The second is that each generation always attempts to identify itself via the zeitgeist. Today it happens to be ultra-progressive identity issues whereas in generations past it might have been music, clothes, sex, race, civil rights, etc. There is always an explosion, an over-correction, or over-expression. Think of it like a social experiment. At some point it'll settle down and we'll look back at it with amusement like we've done with those other trends.

  66. tbf you are only hearing the people who are vocal about because the people who are quiet about it are just that so you don't hear their opinion. An extreme comparison would be saying gunshots aren't fatal because the only people who talk about being shot say they survived

  67. Because its the only interesting thing about them, or at least they think its interesting. Its dreadfully dull and boring.

  68. side note but i love all these straight opinions on why gay teens dont want people to think theyre straight 👀

  69. What’s funny to me is seeing all these straight people in the comments complaining about the exact same things that straight people do.

  70. Are you just as annoyed when straight people mention anything related to their heterosexuality? For example, simply talking about their opposite sex partner, things they like about the opposite sex, unnecessarily gendered things (girl is pink, blue is boy), etc? They might not be explicitly stating their sexuality, but their sexuality is clear and could be viewed as "annoying" or "trendy" or "attention-seeking" particularly to those who do not align with or can't relate to that subset of individuals.

  71. Look at the history of sodomy being illegal in the US, in the UK… look at how gay people have been treated for centuries around the world….and now that society is finally more accepting and tolerant, you want us to pretend we were never wrongfully executed, incarcerated, left to die to a “gay plague” because it was “god’s wrath for homosexuals”…. I think we’ve more than earned the right to be who we are without having to fear for our lives.

  72. Isn’t it because today it is important to be noticed: tiktok and the like are about showing off. If you are “just straight” and not making noise the is a fear of becoming irrelevant. I would classify the need of attention as immature and just give it a few years…

  73. Because we’re basically at that point in time where it’s mostly accepted, yet not normal enough that’s considered weird to come out of the closet.

  74. Because the last generations were so obsessed with broadcasting that they were not. To me its refreshing watching fragile masculinity die.

  75. For real. No homo this, no homo that, eueueue no Timmy you can't wear pink that's for girls, blah blah real men don't do this real men don't do that real men FUCKS SAKE GRANDPA WE GET IT

  76. I was a teenager in the nineties and our thing was trying NOT to be labeled. Now, as an observer on the internet, it appears that younger people desperately seek to be labeled. Idk, to each their own, it just seems odd having come from the opposite.

  77. Because their sexual orientation becomes their identiy. It's pretty fucking stupid if you ask me but hey, to each their own.

  78. Well being gay is the popular thing nowadays, so it shouldn't be a surprise, simpletons are always trying to do the popular thing to fit in

  79. Might not seem like a big deal to you, but gay kids growing up and hearing representation around them, and having relationships with people like them will give a huge confidence boost and goes a long way towards making them feel included.

  80. First of all, teens are finding who they are, and thats valuable to them. And nowadays you get 50% less death threats for being queer, and most of all you cant tell if people are gay by looking at them, so being clear about it can let others know they can date you or cant.

  81. "Everyone on this planet is bi. Most just prefer the opposite sex." Say that 5 times out loud to all your friends followed by, "so there really isn't a bi, just normal people doing normal stuff". We all need to normalize being normal.

  82. As someone that’s 30 I definitely find that younger generations are obsessed with titles and making sure that everyone is aware of said titles.

  83. easy -- there's now social capital in many circles and contexts if you're "queer." I'm gay but I definitely think some people go to college and adopt very vague "queer" terms to either i) avoid being labeled an oppressor or ii) they genuinely want a sense of belonging and latch onto it as it's a relatively accepting community.

  84. People used to be beaten or killed for not being straight or not being cis. Being "out and proud" is a way to assert your right to exist in public.

  85. Because previous generations were encouraged to keep it a secret or feel ashamed by it. Younger people are encouraged to be proud of who they are.

  86. I’m more entertained by a 26 year old calling a 21 year old the “younger generation.” You’re part of the same developmental, qualitative cultural group.

  87. Aight so I'm Asexual, it gets kinda complex the deeper you go but on the most basic level for those who don't know, I don't experience sexual attraction. (Polar opposite of Bisexual)

  88. Because we can?? You know how freeing it is to come out the closet? What in the straight hell is this? And implying that people are faking it is so annoying just because one person did it for literally a night for a dumb game doesn’t mean ppl are fake coming out all the time.

  89. I think the question in itself is a testament to how young OP actually is. Re: they obviously weren’t around for what it was like decades ago when even suggesting you may not be a heterosexual cis could get you beaten up after school every day. I think people are vocal about it because they’re celebrating the safety they feel in being able to be open about who they are. It’s also really no different than listening to heterosexual friends talking about how they think the opposite gender is hot or attractive but we’ve become so accustomed to that that we don’t recognize it as often.

  90. It has nothing to do with "not being straight", its all about wanting others to feel the joy they felt.

  91. Because now saying you're queer is slightly more okay and homophobia is slightly looked down on more. So people feel more okay exploring themselves and looking for words that fit them better.

  92. i’ve been made fun of for my identity my whole life. taking it back is so empowering. i love my identity now, of course i’m going to flaunt it, i have done so much work to just be okay with myself.

  93. People vastly underestimate how often heterosexual people broadcast their sexuality. We don’t even realise because it’s so normalised.

  94. My personal thought is that as a society we feel the need to label everything and every part of ourselves and judge others based on those labels. It can become really toxic!

  95. because straight people are lame. and im only being a little bit facetious. cis-het folks are generally speaking very out of touch about even the most basic aspects of queer lifestyle. and are just kinda exhausting to deal with/not as fun to be around as other gay people. queer folk like broadcasting theyre queer because it shares that theyre safe other queer folks to exist around, and also because it's hard making friends when you only really vibe w like 10% of the population. gotta be vocal if you ever actually expect to meet anyone

  96. Grasping at identity. The ego kicks in around 25 and suddenly they have surrounded themselves with trophy items and accomplishments to identify as. A lot of people don't really know themselves.

  97. Why are straight people so obsessed with broadcasting that they are straight. We get it, you are miserable, you don’t understand each other, and the sex sucks.

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