Any teachers have sex with an ex-student? Need advice.

  1. For me this would be wrong. You can not change your history. You were a mentor/leader/superior. You will always have the upper hand.

  2. I had a similar experience in reverse. I’m a college professor. I recognized a new student and he was a guy that I had met on Grindr about a year before. It was really awkward and he wanted to meet again, but I couldn’t do it while he was in my class. I can understand you being turned on by this, it was the same for me. Would like to hear about your experience. How old is he? When did he graduate? How did you figure out he was your ex student?

  3. You make a very good point. Before I realized he was an ex student we had a really great connection. It’s probably my own fears of what other people might think. Thx!

  4. Imagine how you would be perceived professionally if it was exposed to your superiors. You could probably lose your job. I would say "absolutely not" but that's just me. Plenty of fish in the sea.

  5. I had sex with a English professor when I just started college. He was a super young professor maybe like 4/5 years older than me. It was hot! I just wanted a hook up though but he wanted more like real bad. So I had to block him. 2 years later I end up in his class and I think oh god he’s gonna fail me. Not a week into it he texts me! Got my number from the registry. Was super scared but the text was only stating that he didn’t have any negative feelings towards me and I didn’t have to worry. As time goes on tho we actually kept texting and eventually we hooked up again and again and again lol it was a nice semester. Easy A haha. We hooked up a few more times then I graduated and moved on but we still keep in touch! He’s gonna make someone really happy one day. I think about him a lot unfortunately

  6. Hey. Thx for sharing. Sounds like it was a good experience for you. If I was a college professor it would be an easier decision for me. Even though he is a legal adult and he graduated a couple of years ago, We have a much bigger age difference and I was his HS teacher.

  7. A guy posted last week about actually hooking up with a former student and a lot of the creeps on this sub congratulated him. So this may not be the place to ask moral advice about sleeping with former students. I wouldn’t do it if I was you. You once held a position of power over him and still do to other teen boys. If it got out it would look bad on you from your community. If you want real advice on this ask the teachers subreddit. It won’t be as “high five bro” as this one.

  8. You're still a teacher there. Beyond the general ethics, you do not want your students in that place to ever learn you fucked an old student from that place. It's just… no.

  9. This sounds way hotter than it has any right to be, so if you ever feel like writing a more detailed version I'm all ears. You were not so far apart in age, though, from what I understand?

  10. Had sex with an ex teacher. It’s normal and fine to do so when they’ve left school and are consenting adults (I think).

  11. In a school district I taught, a student had to be 21 to enter a relationship of any kind with a teacher. If they were found out to be involved before then, the teacher could be fired.

  12. If he was in his teens or still in my class, I would say No Way also! He’s 20 and graduated 2 years ago. I would normally have said no to this also but we chatted over a week before I knew that he was my ex student, his profile also said he was 24 yo. During that week, we shared nude body pics and sex chat. Now that he knows who I am, he really wants to meet and I’m excited too.

  13. As a high school teacher, I don't think I ever could. I think that there was (and will in some way always be) that power dynamic that is just wrong. It may be legally okay, but I just couldn't do it.

  14. I really appreciate hearing from a fellow teacher. I have always felt the same way. The dynamic changed a little after a week of sex chatting and exchanging body and cock pictures of each other, and I had no idea he was an ex student. He figured out who I was and now he really wants to meet. I now seen him in a different way than a student after chatting and seeing his nude pics, that’s why I’m struggling. I really appreciate your thoughts and understand where you are coming from.

  15. Yes. Agreed. I don’t think I would have considered this if I had known it was an ex student but after a week of exchanging photos and heavy sex chat, it changed things for me. He figured out who I was, but this was after I had already sent him my cock photos and I got his also. And now that he knows who I am, he really wants to get together. I’m a little freaked out but now that I’ve seen him and chatted sexually, I’m excited too, but it’s breaking all my self imposed rules. Thx for your thoughts, I really appreciate it.

  16. Review your employment contract and any mention of ethics contact with prior and current students.

  17. Thank you for taking the time to respond. I agree with everything you said. I can’t find any rules against it in my school association or state laws but I also know my position is all about “reputation”, which would be lost if it got out. His profile showed that he was 24 yo. I had no idea he was a student of mine that had graduated 2 years ago, which means he’s 20 yo! I would have never considered meeting him if I had known he was an ex student of mine but after a week of exchanging photos and heavy sex chat, it put me in a more vulnerable position. He figured out who I was first, but this was after I had already sent him my nude and cock photos and I got his also. And now that he knows who I am, he really wants to get together with me. I’m a little freaked out but now that I’ve seen photos of him naked and chatted sexually, I’m excited too, but it’s breaking all my self imposed rules. I know he is pretty mature for his age, and he feels meeting me is a really safe place for him to explore his gay sexuality, and I agree. I also don’t want to do anything that would make him upset. But I also know I’m taking a huge risk professionally if anyone at school finds out.

  18. I've had a very similar experience with one of my ex-students. I somehow knew when I was teaching him that he was gay, and given his quite conservative environment at home, I knew this wouldn't make life easier. I've always appreciated him as a student and also when he graduated, we've kept in touch and met from time to time. After a long walk with only the two of us, I invited him for tea at my apartment. He had some back pain and I offered him to massage his back a bit. Nothing special: he didn't even undress his t-shirt, but got an obvious boner when I massaged him. I think it was the first time he was ever "touched" even in this very innocent way by a man. It was a very erotic moment and of course, my dick wanted to take things much further. Still, I restrained myself: this is a former student after all, and as a teacher, you are a confidant, no fuckbuddy. This is the whole reason why priests should be celibate (although I am not religious). I admit: I still fantasize about it regularly and I think my student does as well. He still contacts me regularly, but unfortunately, I brush him off to meet again. I don't want to give up my professionalism as a teacher for sexual fantasies.

  19. Thank you for taking the time to respond. I agree with everything you said. I can’t find any rules against it in my school association or state laws but I also know my position is all about “reputation”, which would be lost if it got out. I also thought he might be gay when he was in my class. When we chatted on-line, His profile showed that he was 24 yo. I had no idea he was a student of mine that had graduated only 2 years ago, which means he’s 20 yo! I would have never considered meeting him if I had known he was an ex student of mine but after a week of exchanging photos and heavy sex chat, it put me in a more vulnerable position. He figured out who I was first, but this was after I had already sent him my nude and cock photos and I got his also. And now that he knows who I am, he really wants to get together with me. I’m a little freaked out but now that I’ve seen photos of him naked and chatted sexually, I’m excited too, but it’s breaking all my self imposed rules. I know he is pretty mature for his age, and he feels meeting me is a really safe place for him to explore his gay sexuality, and I agree. I also don’t want to do anything that would make him upset. But I also know I’m taking a huge risk professionally if anyone at school finds out.

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