What are the Stereotypes of Someone who Only Reads Nonfiction?

  1. I know a guy that literally says people that read fiction are overgrown children and he doesn’t understand why anyone would want to read something that isn’t based on real life.

  2. I met someone like that once. He was very distressed when I showed him that The Bridge Over the River Kwai - a book that he took very seriously - was written by the same author as The Planet of the Apes. What a betrayal.

  3. One of my college English professors was like that. Taught a lot of writing courses but basically forbid science fiction or fantasy. Everything had to be grounded. "Why read something that could never actually happen?" Was his reasoning.

  4. This is my "stereotype" of people who only read nonfiction: that they'll look down on me for enjoying scifi/fantasy.

  5. I have a degree in history and did post graduate work in area studies abroad. I have read a lot of non-fiction. It’s good stuff, but I will submit that I’ve learned far more about human nature and the human condition from fiction. Give me Tolstoy or McCarthy or Herbert any day.

  6. Ugh. This is such a limited viewpoint. In my eyes, fiction is moreso the spread of ideas, "What if this/that happened to him/her/them". Nonfiction is moreso spread of fact, "This happened to him/her/them, and this".

  7. I have the exact opposite. Why would anyone want to read only non fiction? I get that it is educational, and if you are very interested in a certain topic it can be fun, but that's it really in my mind. I'm a student, and i have to study dry subject matter all the time. To relax i like to read Fantasy and Historical fiction especially, and it helps me escape. Life really isn't as exciting as some people make it out to be, so yeah. Some of the best novels i've read will stay with me forever.

  8. That's such a narrow minded view. Fiction can be a just as good, if not better at explaining real life than nonfiction. I've read "non-fiction" that had no grip on reality, and fiction that explained the zeitgeist of the time and the human condition better than any clinical approach to the real world facts.

  9. My boyfriend’s dad is like this. He came out to visit our apartment and he was noticing all my books and asked what I was reading. I told him I had just read The Martian and Project Hail Mary.

  10. Haha it really depends. I read a LOT of non-fiction. Mostly in the science-y and geopolitical realm, but even I have a knee-jerk reaction about people who say they only read non-fiction. Mostly because in real life, I've met a bunch of people who loudly and proudly proclaim this in an attempt to assert their intellectual superiority. I've been on dates or in friend groups and received some left-handed, down the nose comments about enjoying sci-fi instead of only discussing the latest in ~insert latest cutting-edge whatever~ tbf this also occurs in the music world where some folks like to be snobby about their very high-brow avant garde jazz or hard core art music. So it goes.

  11. Also TBF a lot of things written about in sci-fi eventually become the ~insert latest cutting-edge whatever~ at some point . . . so there's that.

  12. I've got a buddy that does the down the nose snobbery about the non-fiction he's read. Like I get it, you're the enlightened Buddha because you read "The Design of Everyday Things", you now understand the universe (i.e. how consumer goods are designed).

  13. Just imagine that guy in the record store who listened through all the records and ended up with “I think Bryan Adams is the best”. Never gonna happen.

  14. Others have covered what your date might have been thinking, but I just wanted to say this: On a date, talk about what you love and what's interesting to you. If that's non-fiction, then it's non-fiction. Being interested in things is a highly attractive trait by itself. You'll attract those who are drawn in by that.

  15. This is so important. When I first tried online dating, my cousins said I shouldn’t include that I am a professor because men won’t want to be with a woman who they think is smarter than them. This seemed odd to me. It’s not like they wouldn’t find out what I did for a living on the first date. I didn’t take their advice. I found a great guy who is confident and well read. We share many interests including reading nonfiction. Be who you are. Read what you want. If the date doesn’t like it, date someone else.

  16. I personally find it positive when someone is reading in the first place. I don't really mind what genre they are reading. Faking interests only works so far and then it's just a big disappointment for everyone involved, I wouldn't even spare the energy for that.

  17. Yeah, if I’m on a first date with a guy, I’m curious about his interests. If they like reading history, that’s good. If their only interests are binging Netflix or endless hours of video games, it’s not a match.

  18. The stereotype that comes to my mind (based largely on my experiences with my mother) is that nonfiction-only people tend to be "all work and no play" types who have a hard time relaxing and don't personally find any value in fiction (or storytelling/imagination in general). These aren't inherently bad personality traits in a partner, but might not be a good fit for some people.

  19. This is exactly what I was going to say. I think it's less about liking non-fiction and more about vocally telling people that you only (or mostly) like non-fiction. I've never heard someone say this without a smug, self satisfied attitude. Not that OP is guilty of this, to be clear. That's just my experience.

  20. Yep, well put. I’ve noticed a trend amongst NF readers of only reading self-improvement and “leadership” books, too.

  21. The head of my department when I was in university was a no fiction guy. He was just really interested in history and not interested in someone's fantasy bullshit about history. He was a really fun guy to hang around, he just didn't enjoy fiction novels or historical fiction films for the most part.

  22. One of my best friends studied writing (she’s now a journalist) and in college we were both constantly reading but we couldn’t really talk to each other about our books because she strictly read nonfiction and I strictly read fiction. Her mentality was that she read to improve herself and learn about the plights of others while I read to get away from the harsh realities of this world. She’d grin whenever I brought up fiction books that I was reading, usually fantasy or sci-fi. I felt a little judged by her for loving fantasy, as if it was a childish interest, but I also kinda judged her for not finding value in imagination.

  23. I like to say I’m on a “non-fiction kick” whenever I’ve been reading lots of non fiction books. Sometimes that’s just what I’m feeling for a couple months but I end up back with my sci-fi/fiction after a bit

  24. I used to be a "non fiction guy" then I discovered Lee Child. I've been wrong about a lot of shit growing old. I read the fuck out of Jack Reacher.

  25. I love non fiction and fiction. I can say this might be a turn off for fiction lovers if only because they might suspect that like some non fiction only readers- may be completely dismissive of the importance, influence, and art of fiction. As if imagination is a dumb toy instead of the very thing that is intertwined with humanity's ability to survive, part of our intelligence and spirit. Story telling is intrinsically human.

  26. Nonfiction readers who don’t think fiction has tangibly and greatly affected the world must be reading some fucked-up nonfiction.

  27. As a mostly fiction reader, this has been my experience. I have a non-fiction reader friend who constantly talks about the books she reads, urging me to read them too (lots of self help/mindset books). But I’ve stopped sharing my reading with her because her eyes glaze over and she dismisses fiction as worthless.

  28. This is the only negative stereotype I can think of. Personally I read a mix. But my dad is one of those non-fiction only types who looks down on all fiction. And thinks it’s all “light, pop fiction”…..even great works and classics which give as much if not more insight into what it means to be human as any non-fiction book about psychology, history, anthropology, anything. So if I were you I might make it clear that you read both, or that you don’t read non-fiction as an exercise in superiority or anything but from genuine interest. Not with those words and I feel I’m not explaining this well, but yeah the thing I’d be worried about is this sort of attitude so something to clear that up and you’re probably good!

  29. And the funny thing is non-fiction still has a narrative structure. They aren’t just posts of dates and facts.

  30. Yeah, the stereotype for me when I hear that someone only reads non-fiction is that they think they're better than me and will look down on my fantasy book preferences lol

  31. The first stories told were fiction. Tales around the campfire about stars and gods. Fiction is intertwined with humanity on a deep level.

  32. You should clarify you don’t hate fiction. There is a group of people that only read non fiction because they think it’s superior to fiction and look down upon people who read fiction

  33. I think it also is helpful to talk about what kind of non fiction books you enjoy, because there are so many it’s not really a useful genre to describe yourself as reading when you are talking about books. Like responding fiction when asked doesn’t say much - do you mean Watchmen or Jane Austen? It’s almost like saying non fiction means “not” fiction and saying “fiction” means “not” non fiction, which could seen as a rejection of an entire genre rather than just having a particular thing in one thing you enjoy.

  34. I feel like the people who I've encountered that are non-fiction readers are typically super pretentious about it, for no apparent reason. I've had those types be super condescending to me for being a mostly fiction reader. Obviously not saying you are like that but maybe he was just making a dumb assumption about you based on previous experiences?

  35. This is exactly what I was thinking. I doubt OP was saying this, or intending to say this. But my experience has been that sometimes non-fiction-only-readers look down on people who read fiction primarily.

  36. Honestly I think the snobby pretentious ones are the ones who are openly bragging about it. Kind of like vegans, lots of them only bring it up when it is necessary, the stereotype comes from the attention seeking ones.

  37. Maybe not pretentious. They often are genuinely smart and learned people, but I have run into a couple of nonfiction readers that consider fiction readers to be stupid and only interested in frivolous things. They sometimes have extremely high standards and anyone who doesn't meet them may as well be a resident of the Idiocracy.

  38. Usually people I've met who only read non fiction are all about not wasting time with reading, meaning they want to learn something or improve themselves or whatever.

  39. Historically, I've mostly read nonfiction as often I feel like real life can be more interesting than fiction. I've been reading a lot of fiction in the form of M/M romance novels lately though as there still isn't a lot of nonfiction about gay and bi men, like myself, which is not sad, very outdated, or a celebrity autobiography (which I do read).

  40. I used to read historical fiction; then I got into real history books and the suspension of disbelief no longer works; I do continue to enjoy fiction, but in different fields: sci-fi for ex; also i like to listen to Dan Carlin's hardcore history shows: based enough in real history to be believable, but very entertaining on top of that based on his speculations and story-telling;

  41. This is so silly, I love nonfiction AND movies. I also do love documentaries, but I watch bad movies for fun, too.

  42. I agree with this. I’ve also found them to be more introspective, sometimes over thinkers. More serious, and less frivolous or spontaneous too.

  43. I've only met one person who reads exclusively nonfiction. He was constantly looking down on other people and didn't have time for "the peasants". Kind of an asshole.

  44. I was basically going to post this. Had a long conversation with a cousin about books and then when I asked him what fiction he read he made a comment along the line of "fiction is only there to amuse the morons". Cue long argument from this 'moron' about how good fiction can be.

  45. Nonfiction-only tends to be misconstrued as anti-fiction, I knew a guy in high school who literally refused any fiction. Movies, books, games, if it was fiction, he refused to interact with it. He was, frankly, a very small minded red neck kinda guy. That's the stereotype that comes to my mind.

  46. That is an interesting person - where does he think things come from in order to become non-fiction? We are humans because we tell stories. Because we have the capacity to imagine and extrapolate. Things only become real after first being fictional. Even something as basic as going to work tomorrow is an imagined scenario, what will the traffic be like, the weather, what are you going to eat? Tomorrow's day at work is fictional, until it isn't.

  47. huh. Interesting! I do really like documentary movies like "Free Solo" and climbing/skiing documentaries but I still watch regular TV etc.

  48. Supposedly that's the sort of person who takes life too seriously and has a really ambitious, type A personality with no imagination or sense of fun. Like they consider fiction to be a frivolous waste of time because it doesn't contribute to Real Personal Success™. Mostly a male stereotype, like if I imagine such a person I'm automatically imagining a guy, probably dressed in an immaculate business suit with slicked-back gray hair, whose entire bookshelf at home consists of books by Dale Carnegie and Robert Kiyosaki with titles like 'The Art of Never Being Satisfied' and 'Millionaire Mindset: Attitude as the Key to Wealth'. Do you kinda see what I mean?

  49. That stereotype isn't limited to men. I had a female department manager at my first job who would only read non-fiction, mostly the self-help and how-to genres. She had an awkward sense of humor and was kind of pretentious.

  50. I knew a girl like this too. Went to Barnes and Noble on a date and was talking about how she only reads self-help and had that attitude you're describing

  51. I think like some people feel that people who read only nonfiction treat it as if their reading is more 'important' and 'serious', when in the end a lot of people who read just read to enjoy and explore and be entertained.

  52. Wild guess: he’s likely a creative type and thinks that you liking non-fiction means you are very “just the facts”, and don’t enjoy a good story.

  53. Good non-fiction is also a good story, it just isn't fictional. That's all. I don't get why everyone in this thread wants to read into it anything more than "they enjoy non-fiction." There's so many different types of non-fiction (as with fiction) that it doesn't really speak to any personality trait one way or another.

  54. They tend to be overly serious and structured, often judgmental and obsessed with maturity. It's like having a conversation with an NPR station.

  55. It doesn’t seem like it describes you, but I think the stereotype of strictly non-fic ppl is that they’re often anti-fiction because it doesn’t have a specific end goal starting out. They read for the destination, not the journey. It’s basically more researching than reading.

  56. Lack of imagination and a contemptuous attitude towards imaginative or fantastical storytelling. I respect it in people I come across professionally because usually such people are highly proficient at what they do; but like your date, I also wouldn't want to be in a committed relationship with (the stereotype of) that kind of person.

  57. I can't speak for overall stereotypes, but I know that the people who only read nonfiction happen to be know-it-all killjoys who couldn't recognize good writing if it stabbed them with a pen. "All the books I read ACTUALLY HAPPENED." Like we get it Brenda, you have no imagination and can't appreciate art. I'm still not gonna read red notice because I don't need a 300 page memoir to tell me that Vladimir Putin is a monster. You're not more knowledgeable about the world by limiting yourself to nonfiction, you're just a bore.

  58. OP this is off-topic but I looked up Silk Road and it looks like a fascinating read, thanks for the recommendation! I’m not a big nonfiction reader myself but my grandma is. Do you have any recommendations that are a bit tamer you think she should check out?

  59. She might really love Empty Mansions by Bill Dedman. It's about a mining heiress Huguette Clark who became a recluse and she lived over a hundred years so your grandmother might enjoy the sweeping arc of history that her life covers, from growing up in France to her father getting busted for trying to buy a seat as Montana's senator, the end of the gilded age all the way through modern times. It's also a bit of a mystery as she had all this wealth and beautiful properties but never used them. I loved it.

  60. Years ago, there was a TV ad for an arts council where it showed a girl with no exposure to art in her life. When her dad asks what he should read for a bedtime story, this dour girl asks him to read the tax code.

  61. My family is big on non-fiction books, but I got to say they have the WORST taste in books, and they used to do audiobooks on our vacation drives. So it makes it really hard for me the black sheep in the family to get into them.

  62. I also (almost exclusively) read non fiction history but I just find it so interesting. I know there’s the cliche that truth is stranger than fiction but I always liken reading history to a real like game of thrones or something. It might just be that periods I enjoy reading about also happen to be particularly tumultuous

  63. Yes! Well written. I think people who don't like non-fiction probably just haven't read anything that is actually interesting to them. They think back to elementary school books on animals or some historical moment that didn't mean anything to them; just book reports and poster board projects.

  64. This sorta hits me... I don't read a lot, but enjoy non-fiction a lot, have read a few biographies and belletristic I can't quite categorise (like there's a a famous domestic journalist (Ulrich Wickert) who's written great books about French culture, about the most interesting people he met in his years of work etc.)

  65. I think there's also the "history buff" stereotype. Basically the book version of the History Channel dad who watches nothing but WWII and civil war documentaries

  66. How did it come up? Did he mention what book he was reading then you started into the "Well I mostly read non-fiction like..."

  67. He was talking about his ex-wife and got a little ranty about her keeping their house and seemed to get hot under the collar and was like, "Enough about her! [awkward pause] so, uh, read any good books lately?" and then I dove right in.

  68. We are in a culture that, unfortunately, values productivity over pleasure and I think some people might turn their nose up fiction because they view it as pleasurable while nonfiction is productive because you are learning.

  69. He almost certainly thinks you're an elitist who sees themself as being too smart or superior to bother with made-up stories. I've met people like that (usually dudes), and they're pretty much always assholes.

  70. I've only met three people in my life who claimed to only read non-fiction. One was a type-a corporate worshipping go-getter who only read self-improvement books. One was a fundamentalist Christian. The third was a hard-nosed history buff. All three were men. All three skewed Conservative. Two of them derided fiction as "just made up." All three derided fiction as a waste of time. All three seemed weirdly resistant to the idea that their opinion was the minority.

  71. I’ll happily be your fifth nonfiction reader! Progressive woman, mid20s, loved reading fiction throughout my entire childhood. I was the kid who always had a book in her hand. Back then, there were just so many stories out there that I had yet to hear, & I loved LOVED discovering new stories in every book I read. But the older I get, the scarcer “good books” seem to be, & outside of a few college level English classes, I haven’t read fiction for pleasure since I was 18 years old. I think that might have something to do with getting exposed to new ideas & ways of thinking about society in college, & being curious about things that I previously was completely unaware of. I think learning is kind of like a snowball effect — the more nonfiction you read, the more questions you have, and the more you are “thirsty” for additional information, additional context to help you make sense of the world & some of the complex issues we all face. I’m a Harvard Law Student, and still read a lot for fun, but I only read nonfiction (unrelated to law, politics or business, since I get more than enough of those topics from other sources.) I rotate through different interests, so the genre of nonfiction that I read changes frequently. The past year, I’ve read a ton of books about geology, rock hounding and mineral collecting. Before that, I read 30 or 40 books on puzzle/riddle creation and solving. Whatever topic I get stuck on, I will usually exhaust until I randomly get curious about something else.

  72. I think it depends. I know some people who read almost 100% non fiction because they find " truth stranger than fiction" and they just really enjoy it. They don't look down on fiction, or those of us who enjoy it.

  73. People who only like nonfiction strike me as people who don’t like the essence of story telling. Maybe they are more scientifically minded compared to creative. I don’t think I could date somebody who is that cutthroat, but I think there is a good healthy medium reading both genres.

  74. The only people I’ve known who’ve mentioned to me that they only read nonfiction have been ambitious, entrepreneurial types (or, as someone who automatically dislikes such people would say, careerists and social climbers).

  75. People who read non-fiction because they prefer it are lovely! We all prefer some things over others. People who read non-fiction because, “there’s so much to learn” and “I don’t have time for pretend” can come off as arrogant. (Do they only watch documentaries, too? The news?) Least, that’s all that comes to mind. Hope it’s helpful to you!

  76. The people I've encountered who only read nonfiction tend to very conservative personalities. People who, to put it diplomatically, value the concrete world over imagination. My ex's family was like this, and they felt that fiction had nothing to offer because "it wasn't real".

  77. There are good points made above about the stereotypes of readers of fiction and non-fiction. As with stereotypes, there is often a degree of accuracy to them.

  78. I don’t know if its what came to his mind, but a lot of pompous people at my college say they only read nonfiction and act sophisticated and brag about how educated they are. For example, 90% of the time they are holding high profile books written by the Obamas, Malala, Bill Gates, etc that look completely unopened. In my experience these people usually have no substance, imagination, and behave condescending toward others.

  79. I was so happy that I got my friend who only reads non-fiction to read Hitchhiker's Guide to the Galaxy. It took some convincing but they enjoyed it in the end!

  80. I didn't realise people had built personalities around book reading. I suppose it's not different to other hobbies but still surprising.

  81. People who treat non fiction and fiction like polar opposites and will only read one or the other baffle me. Like have they read history? That shits just public domain Game of Thrones, except the author is chained to his desk and can't stop writing

  82. The only thing I think If someone tells me they read mostly nonfiction is that the person loves to learn new things. And this is super cool. Don’t know why anyone wouldn’t be down with this.. we all have different tastes too. No need for judgement on what other people like. That’s ridiculous. Your date sounds like a poopoo head.

  83. It doesn’t really say anything monumental about a person if they read nonfiction. Nor if they read fiction. What says a lot about a person is whether or not they are judgmental towards people who don’t read the same thing.

  84. Sounds like he meant you’re a woman with obvious and unabashed intellectual interest. The normal response is to discuss books he has read or even other media like shows or movies. He probably doesn’t read books at all, of any kind. And was threatened.

  85. Lol. Ironically I read mostly fiction and didn’t have a tv until this year when I moved in with my boyfriend. Not that I didn’t watch tv, I did and do. I just didn’t want to spend the money to buy a tv since watching on my computer doesn’t bother me. 🤷‍♀️

  86. Funny thing is, I read more fiction than non-fiction (70/30 ratio) and I don't own a TV. Mostly because growing up in a household where the TV was considered more important than anything else made me loathe its existence. I watch things on my computer occasionally, but not enough to justify buying a TV.

  87. Other people have already suggested as much, but I feel there are a handful of stereotypes which might be applied to someone who only likes non-fiction. I have known people that express they are "bored" (maybe lack of imagination, empathy, whatever) by fiction or more thrilled my non-fiction, that they find more value in non-fiction (learning something tangible for instance), etc, and there can be condescension accompanying either. In my experience, condescension has statistically happened more often than not.

  88. I've found that there's a certain group on non-fiction readers that see no value in fiction or say something along the lines of "I read to learn." Both of these sentiments are close-minded and fairly condescending, which is why that group tends to give non-fiction readers a bad name.

  89. There was a study a few years ago that concluded people who don't read fiction tend to have less empathy. This is borne out by people I know. That doesn't apply to you since you do read fiction. I do a mix, but three of my very favorite authors are non fiction writers: William Manchester, Bill Bryson and Tom Boswell. All three write exceptionally well, are highly entertaining and well informed.

  90. I'm super hypersensitive/empathetic, and I love nonfiction. Most of what I read is biographies, and I usually read about subjects with very tumultuous lives. I don't like it when biographies soup up a topic to make it more "exciting" (especially when the topic is exciting enough in itself), but I have definitely laughed and cried reading biographies.

  91. Uncreative and functional. Probably make great accountants or tax attorneys. Reliable and honest, somewhat humorless, boring. Spends leisure time making up new chores to do. Middle aged, conservative, but polite and forthright is how I picture them. No bad people at all, but I can say I don't care to spend all that much time around them despite respecting them and not actively disliking them.

  92. I went from reading mostly fiction to mostly non-fiction, for various reasons. I had no idea there were stereotypes or that readers of predominantly non-fiction might be viewed badly by some. Maybe this is a nationality/generational thing?

  93. The one person I know who doesn't read fiction also doesn't really like movies, games or TV either. He's into music a little bit though.

  94. Just want to comment to say I recently read Say Nothing, a non-fiction book on the Troubles that I would wholeheartedly recommend to anyone.

  95. It was nothing to do with what you said. He was either negging you or uncomfortable talking about you and not him.

  96. As a guy who mostly enjoys fiction, I have met many women who almost exclusively read nonfiction. They can be a little snobby and judgemental about it at times. Not to mention boring.

  97. I have come across a lot of people who say that they only read nonfiction because they see reading as a means to educate themselves. They also claim that fiction is a waste of time because they see it as being fake.

  98. My grandma only reads nonfiction and classics, and she’s flat-out nasty to anyone that mentions reading regular fiction. God forbid I relate something we’re talking about to a tv show; she’ll tell you that you’re “losing touch with reality” and just cut off any point you were trying to make by mocking you.

  99. Keep an eye out for the telltale water bottle they carry with them everywhere. They tend to be dehydrated a lot as a result of all the dry stuff they read.

  100. Anyone else reading this thread going "wow, these descriptions of productivity focused, no-fun people sounds exactly like me"?

  101. Yeah kind of. I mean, I read fiction occasionally and I love fictional movies and tv, so it's not like I'm non-fiction only, but I still see these comments and think "is the 'no-fun' part of me because I like reading non-fiction, too? Like should I stop and then I'll be more fun?" lol

  102. I've also been getting into a lot of non-fiction lately, and gotten a similar response from some people who seemed to think it was symptomatic of some kind of superiority complex.

  103. One of those women who’s smarter than he is. Without the benefit of context, it’s more likely he’s not much of a reader himself and wasn’t expecting you to reel off the names of several books you recently read. He was not pleased to find out you have tastes and depth to your personality. Maybe it threatens him, or maybe he’s embarrassed that he can’t relate to you on that and tried to cover by condescending to you and pretending he actually has more sophisticated interests and tastes that you just wouldn’t understand. Not a good move in my opinion but it’s common for some men to do this.

  104. Imagine you are at a dinner party and people are talking about movies. People talk about movies that have impacted them emotionally like deep artistic movies, people talk about the movies that make them laugh like stupid comedies. Then during the middle of this discussion about all different sorts of movies, one of the dinner guests says "The only movies that I watch are educational documentaries". I think a lot of us would assume that person is kind of a wet blanket. Similar Vibe with only reading nonfiction books. In the future on dates I would say something along the lines of while I love and have been a lifelong reader of fiction, lately I've gotten on a nonfic kick just from wanting to learn about xyz... Makes you seem like a warmer and more well rounded person.

  105. Maybe he just wanted someone to validate his super-cool taste in books. You know, like when people ask you what music you listen to just so they can actually talk about what they like for an hour?

  106. I see it the same as the “I don’t watch TV” crowd. Patting themselves on the back because they feel this is exceptional and places them in a higher status than those who do otherwise.

  107. Props for your honest answer, but...damn! Are you like 8,000 years old and living everywhere in the world simultaneously, with intimate knowledge of everything? How is non-fiction your real life??

  108. Nonfiction plus good beer? You sound lovely. Bad Blood is fascinating. These are the stories of our times. There’s no need to judge someone who wants to understand this runaway world.

  109. He might think that you look down on people who like fiction books. You should definitely read what you want and talk about your interests but I’m going to be completely honest I personally would not really be interest in dating or having a close friendship with someone who only reads/watches non-fiction. I know that sounds really harsh but fiction and fantasy are a major part of my life and nearly all of my interests revolve around them so i know i just wouldn’t have much in common with someone like that and we just wouldn’t be compatible. I definitely think people should like what they like though and not care what others think but that might be the reason he said that.

  110. You know the type of people who only listen to classical music or jazz exclusively on records or something and are super obnoxious and elitist about music looking down on hip hop/dubstep and consider them "not real music" and think they're better than everyone else? The type that doesn't watch movies or TV shows unless it's a documentary or about real events, and the only other media they consume is news. Think brown suits and turtlenecks

  111. It can come off as snobby or condescending depending on how you speak about people who enjoy fiction. Like “oh I like to LEARN and expand my KNOWLEDGE not waste my time on silly fantasies.” That’s basically everyone in my family except me, who really enjoys fiction, and it makes me mad.

  112. I don't know if it is common, but talking to a friend about our book preferences she said "I only read non-fiction books bc fiction is a waste of time" I told her about what I have learned with fiction books but she kept skeptical about its importance then we just agreed to disagree 🤷🏻‍♀️

  113. I (38m) think of my dad. Tweedy, erudite, can rattle off a story about any topic in history. I definitely think older. I don't think no fun, but then I find history to be very fun and am always swapping stories and facts with him. I think a person who is mostly into nonfiction is less wacky, more sardonic in their sense of humor. Less likely to like nonesense, more likely to enjoy a pithy pun or turn of phrase. Less Monty Python, more Ogden Nash.

  114. Who doesn't like reading non fiction as well as fiction a good story is a good story. Someone had to inspire the characters in novels. And quite frankly any World War II history book is chock full of crazy shit That is kind of hard to believe actually happened but Most certainly did. Was there an entire legion of inflatable tanks inflatable tanks in the British isles that was strategically moved to is was strategically moved to distract the Germans from D-day yes. Did they air drop is airdrop condoms over Germany labeling labeling magnum condoms medium to somehow attempt to lower German morale German morale yes they did that was the British. Did the Berlin airlift actually happen did aviators actually give chocolate to thousands of children over the course of several years yes. Was there a female Soviet tink brigade that saw combat and was highly decorated yes. Did the British somehow peacefully invade Iceland but Iceland but still have one of the Icelandic police officers punch the commanding officer simply on principle because they weren't exactly happy about being invaded even though it was peacefully and they really only set up radio stations and a few airports on the island still the principle of the matter someone had to get punched in the face it was just common courtesy really.

  115. Most of what I read is non-fiction. Mostly Intelligence related, with WWII sprinkled in, some Australian History sprinkled in (Peter Fitzsimmons knows how to spin a yarn and I wouldn't have read about Mutiny on the Bounty if not for that book).

  116. Just commenting to let you know I’m saving this thread as “one of those” who likes to read non-fiction and loved Bad Blood.

  117. An alternative to this is that everything is alright and he's juste negging you. Seriously, nobody should be saying this on a date of they want to make a good impression. If I got such snarl on a date, I'd move on from the guy. I don't need to see what else he's gonna neg me about in the future.

  118. I read mostly nonfiction too! I can't give dating advice, but I do acknowledge that fiction is awesome and has merit, so I generally try to sneak in one great classic or other noteworthy fiction book to bridge the gap between nonfiction books. But generally, I find that reality is way stranger than fiction, and I rather read a well researched, well written book about things that are real and actually happened than a made up story, however brilliant.

  119. I’m reading these comments and wonder where I fit in. I used to love reading fiction, but as I grew older, I enjoyed it less. It’s hard to explain. I’d pick up a book and start reading and it just wouldn’t grab me as it used to. So I’m reading non-fiction almost exclusively now. I find it interesting and engaging. I don’t read fiction because I simply can’t! I’m in my mid forties now, have struggled a bit with depression. I enjoy playing video games. I don’t consume many tv series anymore or watch as many movies. I have this overarching sense of ‘been there done that’ (‘seen it…’) when it comes to fiction. Is it a product of growing old? My dad also rarely read fiction. I’d like to read fiction, I just struggle to enjoy it now.

  120. I know I was the "non fiction" type until i discovered the joys of audio books that let me listen to books when I can't read. Driving, watching the kids at the park, falling asleep etc. I also listen when i need a break from reading text (I'm a programmer). Non fiction books don't work as well personally in audio form because I'm studying and not reading linearly.

  121. I'm guessing he's met a few plato types who see fiction as a distraction and waste of time. They are interesting folk but they come off as a bit different.

  122. Anecdotally, when I was reading a lot of nonfiction it was because my brain was just thirsty for knowledge and I ultimately ended up going back to college (I had dropped out for undiagnosed ADHD and financial reasons) and staying on until I finished, at long last. Now I'm a bit saturated and though I do love a long form article I just can't seem to make myself read a history book for fun.

  123. No, you should tell your dates. There a chance this guy just made a boneheaded comment. If you have a lot in common otherwise then maybe give it another shot.

  124. Excuse my crass language, but there are some really fucking exciting non-fiction stories out there. Sometimes real life is every bit as entertaining, if not more so, than fiction.

  125. First, to me it doesn’t really say much in particular about a person if they mostly read non-fiction or if they mostly read fiction. Sure, you could infer some things either way, but knowing what a person likes to read is really more of an entry point to ask them more questions and get to know them better.

  126. The only stereotype I could think of is "boomer dads who read a shitton about World War II", but that doesn't sound like your situation at all.

  127. I'm a researcher, and I don't read nonfiction because, to me, that is work. I used to read a fair amount of nonfiction when I was younger, but that was because the science education I was getting at school was garbage and I wanted to explore things that were interesting to me. However, I now find it much harder to express my creative and imaginative side, which to me is no less valuable. So for me it would tend to depend on the person's occupation. An academic or researcher who only reads nonfiction would strike me as a boring person with no imagination. If someone works in the service industry and reading nonfiction is their primary way of continuing to learn, that is a totally different thing.

  128. I guess I kind of assume that they're either lying or trying too hard to be an intellectual. I mean I know it's not always the case but I have seen way too many cases where people I know ask for book recommendations but specify it has to be non fiction and it ends up that they're just doing it to seem like they're reading (because it's sometimes seen as a positive or intellectual trait) but want to seem like they're too good for "silly made up stories".

  129. My assumption would be elitist and that they look down on others. A lot of people that say they only read nonfiction often end up saying something like "fiction? So children's books."

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